I love my wife's heart for God

Last night I was reminded of one of the main reasons I fell in love with my wife... And, in fact, it is THE main reason I first started taking notice of her.

It is her heart for God. Nothing makes me love my wife more or makes her more attractive to me than when she is worshipping God with all her heart. I remember when I first met Cindy, how over a period of a few months, she was on fire for God... Reading the Bible, studying it, and praying at all times.

Now, because of our schedule, I don't often catch my wife praying and worshipping outside of the context of a Sunday service or occassional at band practice... But last night she was on fire, and it was so beautiful. I could not help but smile and thank God for such an awesome wife. When life seems to be unfair, and everything seems NOT to be going your way (which is far from the present reality in my life), it is something special to be married to someone who can just get lost in our Father's arms!

I love my wife!

I love my wife's hard working spirit

I love that my wife knows how to work... And she knows how to work hard. We've been talking about starting our family, and we've been putting in the effort (wink, wink, nudge, nudge). But of course, there's always questions about finances. Until recently, I was only working part-time at a coffee shop, and any teaching work was not guaranteed. Cindy was also only working part-time. But, I recently found out that the technician I was replacing handed in his resignation, so that opens the door for me to become permanent at Dawson, and Cindy has been replacing someone at the hospital. So she's been working 45 hours a week. This has been a great blessing to us, but what has been more of a blessing to me is that my beautiful, wonderful wife is willing to put in so many hours for the good of our family. And the most awesome thing, none of this "extra" work is cutting into our time with each other. I am so blessed that my wife is such a hard worker... Actually, sometimes I wished she would relax a little more... It makes me look bad :)

I love my wife.

I love that my wife knows how to say sorry

My wife is really good at saying sorry when I have been hurt or offended by something she said or did... Even if it was not what she meant, but just the way I understood the situation. And she will apologize almost as soon as she knows that I've been hurt or offended.

I really appreciate this, and it goes a long way to diffusing an escalation in emotions. It makes me happy to know that my wife is sensitive to my feelings, and makes an effort to bring healing to a wounded area.

I love my wife.

I love that my wife challenges me

I guess this is along the same lines as some other blogs like "I love that my wife frustrates me." Nevertheless, it bears repeating, because I see the issue in a different light right now.

As I have written, my wife is the perfect spouse for me. Her strengths compliment my weaknesses, and vice versa. One of her strengths is pointing out my weaknesses. But the awesome thing is that she doesn't do it in a nit-picking-kind-of-way. Actually, I would bet that most of the time, she has no idea that she's revealing a weakness of mine to me.

Everytime she does it, I am challenged to grow to be a better person. I am challenged to see all three sides to a situation (you'll have to tune in to my other blog to learn more about that idea in the near future). I am challenged to be more sensitive and understanding. I am challenged to think of others (especially her) more and sometimes more than myself. I am challenged to be all that I can be... And not vice versa!

My wife, my marriage has not boxed me in, has not kept me from my dreams... Instead, it is preparing me and molding me and pushing me toward my destiny. For that, thank you , my Love.

I love my wife.

I love that my wife tells me when she is hurt/offended/angered by what I say or do

I am not a perfect man... Just in case you had some false notion of what a great guy I am since I keep a public blog or how wonderful and how much I love my wife :)

I have, and I probably will again (not that I plan or purposely do it), hurt, offend, or angered my wife with something I have said or done. Again, I am not perfect--none of us are. However, I am not saying this to excuse myself, but rather to show how forgiving, loving, and all-round wonderful my wife is.

She will always tell me exactly how I had hurt her. It may not be right away. But she will always come around and speak to me. I so appreciate that, even if it may make me uncomfortable or upset or hurt me at the time. But, that is really just my pride. It is me realizing that I did or said something wrong, that I still have many character flaws that need change and many rough edges that need "sanding".

I love that my wife will come to me and tell me when my words have hurt her, because I tend not to think much before I speak. And often, the first words out of my mouth are not the most appropriate. Or the tone I say them in comes out rough and rude. I am just so blessed to have someone so close to me that is helping me overcome these "flaws", before I hurt some little heart (i.e. our future children).

I love my wife.

I love my wife's cooking style

I just love that my wife is not one of those who follow the recipe to the letter. I know that's good in some instances, especially when baking, but part of the fun of cooking, for me, is the adventure in creating a dish and in tasting that dish for the first time. I love that my wife likes to experiment with different cuisines. I love that she's willing to try different ingredients. I love that she can cook!!!

It really is special to me to have found someone who has almost as much passion for cooking as me, but is more grounded (I can go off the deep end, sort to speak, when putting ingredients together).

And the fact that she makes an awesome curry is such a blessing!

I love my wife.

I love that my wife takes care of me

Yesterday, we went to a walk-in clinic because Cindy had been suffering from severe sinus pain and green-yellow mucus for a couple of days... Usually, a sure sign of a sinus infection. Anyway, after a two hour wait, the doctor confirmed and prescribed her some penicillin. Strangely enough, she was feeling much better, and it was me who was coming down with flu-like symptoms.

So she made a really light supper (mostly steamed greens, because I wouldn't have been able to eat anything else) and got a blanket (actually three) for me. She brought me a Tylenol Cold & Flu tablet, and just fussed over me to make sure I was ok.

She really is very special to me! AND, I feel a million times better today!

I love my wife.

There's a sweetness in the air

Oh boy, I changed the title! But I think that's the best way to describe how I'm feeling right now. I am just so happy every time I'm with my wife. It's "sweet" to be with her. Even while we sleep, it's just so wonderful to have her there beside me, to hear her breath, to feel her warmth. I can't wait to get home to be with her. There's like a new level of understanding between us as well... I can't really put words to it... I don't know...

I love my wife!

I love that my wife is cute

What I mean by that is that she still has a child-like innocence to her, even though she is an adult. She has a cetain "childlikeness" that makes her cute. She is sweet. Loves to cuddles. That's cute to me!

I love my wife.

I love that my wife knows how to confront people

Don't take this in the "negative" way... Talking to someone and pointing out their mistake or error or sin. That is often easy to do. Maybe it's something "sinister" in our being that likes to tell someone when they've made an error. But, ultimately, I think it's because, often the other person KNOWs they've made a mistake.

No, what I'm referring to is talking to someone about sensitive issues or about an attitude adjustment or some other "fine tuning" point. These are often harder because it can really hurt or offend someone. Often we take it as criticism or being too critical. I don't like doing that. I am not a confronting-type of person. But my wife is awesome at it... I don't particularly like it when she confronts me about something, though I do appreciate it that I have a wife that does not want to leave me in some bad habit or pattern.

I love the fact that my wife is bold enough to step in and confront someone to make the necessary adjustments, rather than leaving it up to them to figure it out or to have GOD point it out to them. It encourages me to do the same. That's leadership.

I love my wife.

I love my wife's heart for other people

Rarely will my wife think of herself first. She is always thinking of others, and looking for ways to help, encourage, egg-on, build up, and support others (including me). Not that she does not know how to take care of herself, or take a day off when needed, but she is always open to have people over or to talk on the phone or to go for a coffee with someone. That makes me very happy, because I am the same way... Though I have realized that I am much more self-centered than her, meaning that I will think of my own needs before someone else more often than her... But I digress :)

I'm happy and I love that she has no problem with me inviting people over... Even on short notice sometimes.

I'm so happy that this is not an area we need to fight and struggle with... Though we do have to be careful to make sure we make time for one another... And we do.

I love my wife.

I love that my wife is loving

My wife shows me love! I am so blessed that my wife is not one of those "frigid" wives--of course, they are usually frigid for multiple reasons, so that don't even involve their husband. But, I digress...

My wife knows how to show me love in many ways:
- Physically, with hugs, caresses, kisses, etc... ;)
- With words of encouragment, words of interest (showing an interest in things that stir up my passion), words of love,
- Emotionally, by connecting with me,
- Acts of service, but taking care of so much of the adminitrative stuff in our relationship,
- and, even with the occasional gift (not for a birthday or major holiday!)

She has always been like this, but maybe I'm just seeing it in a new light... the light of a new year.

I really thank God that my wife knows how to be loving.

I love my wife.

I love my wife for the little details she thinks of

Today was my first day back at work at Dawson... And it was one of the few times I brought my lunch from home. It was also one of the few times my wife had prepared it for me the night before. Don't take this the wrong way... I don't expect my wife to prepare my lunches. She's busy. She has her own job she needs to go to and various other responsibilities, that I will not dump making my lunch on her as well. Whenever either one of us has the chance, we'll prepare lunch for each other. But most often than not, we just grab something on the go or we buy a sandwich or something.

Having said that, my wife prepared my lunch for me today. She had the day off and she was in "housewife" mode last night. She ironed a bunch of my shirts (Thank you, Love) and did a bunch of cleaning, and she prepared my lunch, which I am so thankful for. But really, to me, the thing that touched me most was the little details she thought of. In my lunch, besides a tupperware full of leftovers was an orange (I'm fighting off some virus or something and have had a sore throat for the last couple of days, so my wife knew I needed more vitamin C) and a little bag with some chocolates. Notice the details! Want to know something else, the chocolates, which came from a box we received for Christmas and had a bunch of white chocolate in it as well (I am not a fan of white chocolate), were all the dark and milk chocolate ones!

Isn't my wife amazing and awesome! It might not mean much to you... But it does to me!

I love my wife.